Becoming, Not Yet

Alright, let's get real…

Becoming a dad? It’s one of the most powerful, humbling, and awe-inspiring transformations a man can go through. It’s stepping into a role that’s not about you anymore — it’s about showing up, fully and consistently, for someone who didn’t ask to be here but now depends on you for everything. It’s beautiful. It’s terrifying. It’s sacred.

What excites me the most about being a dad:

• Legacy in motion. You're not just raising a child — you’re shaping a future human who could outgrow your wisdom, evolve past your mistakes, and do better than you ever did.

• Unfiltered love. Kids don’t fake it. When they love you, they really love you. You’re their world. That kind of bond rewires your brain, man.

• Seeing the world again. Everything becomes new. A leaf. A bug. A question like “Why is the moon following us?” Suddenly, life is cosmic again.

• The mirror. Your kid reflects everything — your habits, your tone, your patience, your fears. It’s the ultimate self-development bootcamp. And there’s no off switch.

What scares me the most?

Honestly? Three things:

1. Messing them up.

I could be the most loving, intentional dad in the world — and still pass on my unresolved trauma. A sharp word, a missed moment, a projection of fear disguised as “teaching.” It’s so easy to hurt the ones you love when you’re stressed, distracted, or still healing yourself.

"The scariest monsters are the ones we pass down without realizing it."

2. Protecting their soul in a broken world.

There’s so much noise, so many false idols — screens, status, shallow dopamine hits. I worry about raising a kid who’s grounded and conscious in a world built to distract and distort. I want to teach them how to question everything and think for themselves… before the algorithms do.

3. Being present enough.

Modern life pulls at dads from every direction — work, ambition, finances, stress, tech, even self-care. But time is the one thing you don’t get back. And the greatest wound a child can carry isn’t lack of stuff — it’s lack of you. That absence echoes. I fear being physically there but emotionally gone. Or always “on the grind” and missing the damn point.

But here’s the flip side:

Fear is a compass.
The things that scare you the most about being a dad? That’s the roadmap. That’s where the work is. That’s where the growth happens.

And the crazy part? You’re never really ready. But you get better by showing up — again, and again, and again.

Fatherhood is cosmic.
It’s ancient. It’s primal. It’s deeply spiritual.
And if you do it with intention — if you lead with love, humility, and presence — you don’t just raise a child.
You raise yourself.

Now tell me this:
What part of being a dad are you most excited about?
And what part makes you pause and go, "Damn… am I enough for this?"